Sunday, June 28, 2009
As our PFLAG membership and attendance has grown, we have had several young people come to the meetings who have identified as trans; it is hardest on the parents who are trying to make sense of what their child is going through. One of PFLAG's purpose's is to educate the public and advocate for understanding of the issues lgbt children, youth, adults must negotiate in their struggle to survive and just live the live's they see for themselves.
The next day we picked up the letter and spent a few hours at the High Museum of Art in Atlanta and saw some of Monet's Water Lilies painting, quite exquisite and wonderful. We had lunch at Mary Mac's Tea Room, a wonderful Atlanta landmark, that has had quite a few visitors of the rich and famous; wonderful homemade cooking. The Tea Room is on Ponce de Leon Ave, you need to stop in whenever you get the chance. That was Kay's request as she has wanted to eat there for a long time.
I took my letter to the DDS the next day to change the gender on my drivers license and was immediatly questioned about what kind of surgery I had had and who did what. Then she shows me a page from her manuel of Law, Rules and Regulations for Transsexual Applicants and what wording should be in the letter, tell me that the wording is wrong in my letter because it did have the word 'surgical' and that they would not change my drivers license. I try to explain that my doctor use the text dictated by my lawyer from Lambda Legal but she refused to listen and check other resources.
I send lambda legal copies of the doctor's letter and the copy of the page from the manuel the supervisor used to deny my request and we called the doctor to get an ammended letter. So we will see what happens when I submit my new letter. Stay tuned folks.
Friday, June 19, 2009
I really confused the receptionist this morning when I check-in and tried to verify my personal information. As she was using my SSN, I could tell she was very confused when my old name popped up in the computer and she was really confused when she asked me what my husband's work phone number was. I immediately realized that my SSN was still linked to my old name and with me trying to sign in as Sarah, she assumed that I was the wife. When trying to get authorization from Tricare, one has to be very accurate in the spelling of one's name. I did mentioned that the system might be using my old name but she didn't connect what I said to the problem she was creating as she used my SSN. Again, I had to quietly but patiently explain that the previous patient named "John" was indeed me, and that I now go by Sarah. I kept looking at her face to see some reaction, but she kept her cool and never broke her stride changing the information with my new name. She already had authorization from Tricare with the correct personal information but their patient sheet had Sarah listed as the spouse and "John" as the military sponsor.
Having a history of both identities with the same SSN around the town where one lives will always mean that some place, some where, I will have to "out" myself; again.
I just clipped this story from Pam's House Blend. This is the uncut version of the TV ad that they are running. This makes my blood boil to think that these advertising people think this is funny. This whole ad just explodes with vile references and innuendos that suggest trans women are deceptive and criminal when they find relationships. I think it also suggests that some men are dumb and shallow and too quick to jump into bed with anyone without thinking. This is a slam against the great work done in the movie "TranAmerica". This idea just make it harder for all of us who are working desperately to bring respect and some humanity to our lives.
I agree with Pam's comments:
No commentary saying trans people are horrible, deceptive people there, whose transitions are "not for better," eh? Nice. I get tired of constantly having to defend my humanity to people who don't perceive me as fully human. Well guess what? I am fully human, and this commercial angers me.
The Contact page links are to pages where you can send the dealerships' emails. If this kind of thinking pisses you off as much as it does me then lets tell them.
LA Car Guy Dealerships:
• Lexus Santa Monica
1501 Santa Monica Blvd, Santa Monica, CA 90404
Sales: Sales 800-859-4081
Thursday, June 18, 2009
It seems that people are having a good time with this and are beginning to build community.
The couple that is playing the two leads really do have good voices for theatre, and people will be very pleased. Will post pictures after next week!
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
The month of June is like an anniversary month for me; it was 5 years ago that I started my HRT schedule by taking the “T” blocker alone that month, then adding the estrogen the next. June is, if I remember right, the month that the company I had worked for was sold. Oh, we still had our jobs until November 15 of 05 when my job was dissolved and relocated. June ‘03 is about the time I really noticed Kay at church. I was still searching for who I was and was lucky enough to meet another trans woman, who sent me to my therapists and introduced me to a great group of lgbt folks in
A lot has happened in those intervening years. I have attended parties, bridal showers, girl’s only events. Which I can’t even begin to relate how it feels to attend a girl’s only party where most of the women do not know of my history and still they see as just another woman and accept me; include me without hesitation. My medical caregivers know my history; my urologist, both of my surgeons, my primary care physician, my doctors at the VA clinic, my eye doctor, my endocrinologist, their staff members, emergency room doctors and nurses of both hospitals in town. They all know of my history and it hasn’t made any difference as to the way they treat me.
I have performed with the Universities production of the Vagina Monologues for the past two years and have had a blast. Getting to know the young women in the shows have been very uplifting for me; as well as their getting to know me. Letting others get to know me first before I tell them my story makes it easier for them to positively change their opinion about LGB and Trans people.
Here I am 5 years after taking that first ‘pill’, a married woman, a woman who has fought breast cancer, has gone back to the Technical College for another program, has stepped into my church as Sarah and has never looked back. When I go shopping with Kay or go to the movies, or plays or concerts, people see me as just another female doing what she has to do.
Friday, June 12, 2009
"So you're praying for the death of the president of the United States?"
..."You would like for the president of the United States to die?" Colmes asked once more.
"If he does not turn to God and does not turn his life around, I am asking God to enforce imprecatory prayers that are throughout the Scripture that would cause him death, that's correct."
I will say that I am not much of a Biblical Scholar, but being in a small Bible study group, we have read much of the New Testament and I can't recall Jesus calling for imprecatory prayers from his Apostles upon those who would seek his death, or hinder his ministry. People's calling upon God to invoke evil or a curse on any person seems to me to be against all the writing and stories that we can find within the New Testament of one's Bible. I know God is selective as to how s/he might grant people prayers and thoughts, but to claim that someone should be "taken out" by the God we pray to is way beyond my comprehension. Is it people with this much influence that is giving the 'green light' to those of questionable mental health problems to carry out this Preachers call to inflict evil upon someone who has not publicly be 'born again"? Wasn't Dr. George Tiller praying in his church, a Elder of his church? And what drove the white supremacist to enter the Holocaust Museum and begin shooting the Security Guard. I am quite befuddle by all the encouraged violence that is being inflicted upon humanity in the name of religion and fear of Government control.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
As I have mentioned earlier, I believe that only a few people know about my history, I started to tell the director 2 nights ago but hesitated; only because I don't want him to be blindsided if one of the big financial backers raises a stink. I did learn that when they performed "Sordid Lives", this same director stuck to his guns to produce the show; and as a result the president of the guild resigned over the decision. It is amazing to see just how far our part of South Georgia has grown up to be inclusive; I hope. The persons who plays Emile and Lt Cable seem to be very good singers and nice people.
Next week the real fun begins!!
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
We must protect all of our children from any and all forms of bulling, hate and harassment as they live their lives. Changing the attitudes about respecting children who might me different is the only way to ensure that our schools and churches and other public places are places where there is no bulling or hate or hurt. When children learn to protect those who have been bullied then they are raising their own self worth.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
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There have been so many companies that have pulled their advertising from KRXQ radio station because people took the time to complain and do something to counteract the call for violent behavior toward our transgender children.
The above response is from an email that I had sent to the leadership at Guitar Center thanking them for pulling their money and advertisement from the KRXQ radio show. When I was working this music company was bought out by Guitar Center in June 2003 but for reasons I am not privy to, they closed our store and music repair shop on Nov 15, 2005. Only the June before I had disclosed to my Repair Supervisor that I was trans and would be changing from male to female. I was told that that would pose no problem; and I never had anyone say anything to be about being trans. Granted I was working in a warehouse/repair shop which happend to be located in a different location than the primary store so I was not waiting on any customers.
I am glad to now know that the company I worked for, has stepped up and condemed the violent behavior these radio people have condoned and spewed over the airwaves. That calling for abusive behavior toward your own children can not be tolerated.
Thank you Dan and all the Senior Management personnel for taking a collective stand.
Sunday, June 7, 2009
I think that this production will be very different to say the least. Emile, the French Planter, is being played by a man with a pony tail and a beard, Lt. Cable, is being played by an African American, a very talented young man back from New York. And then there is me, a trans woman who gets to be one of the nurses, and sings the woman's part and gets to dance and......... well you know. Just wait for the rest of the story as rehearsals really get underway.
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Monuments erected by man
Ineptly depicting one moment in time
Giving historical facts and information
In concise prose.
Attempt to honor death by
Preserving blood stained ground.
Structures of metal, rock or stone
Brussels’ Lion standing watch over fields
Where Wellington gave Napoleon his Waterloo
America’s Tomb for the Unknown’s
Rises from the mists of the Nation’s Cemetery
London’s Trafalgar’s Square
Encroached by daily traffic
Berlin’s Brandenburg Gates and Paris’ Arc of Triumph
To the City and Glories past
Belgium’s roll call of power etched in time
Guarded by rusting relics of mechanized war
Monuments are sculptured material of man’s making
To glorify death, blood and of his heart’s breaking.
February 23, 2002
Thursday, June 4, 2009
We have a read through this Sunday night and begin rehearsal on Monday. Will keep posting frequent updates.
It going to be especially hard to let our dear friend leave, after all, they do have our God Child! And I am really going to miss having the girls over for a special day. Last Tuesday after we had given them their baths, which they really needed after playing so hard making bubbles and stuff, we had turned on Sleeping Beauty for them to let them wind down before their parents came to pick them up and the 4yr old cuddled up next to me and give me the biggest hug and snuggle while she waited for her father to take her home. We had bought one of the flip cameras and let them take some pictures of each other, very interesting shots; hands, floor, something very blurry.
This is going to be an emotional period for me, to let a piece of your heart go with someone you love will be very hard, very hard indeed.