One young man and I recognized each other as members of the community chorus. He commented to me that before he knew, I was one of the few women who could sing lower than him and he couldn’t understand why. Now he knows why! He sat next to me once a week for 15 weeks and saw me as a woman who had a great contralto voice; according to him and some of the other young women in the group. I was quite flattered at 1) not being clocked, 2) seeing me as just another woman in the group and 3) hearing the quality of my voice as being a contralto. We sat next to each other I had often thought about inviting him to a PFLAG meeting; but I didn’t want to come out and question his orientation.
I have been singing with the group for the last 5 years as Sarah and just assumed that everyone knew my history, some do; but to them that’s old news and it just doesn’t matter anymore.